Do You Feel Like God Has Abandoned You?

The poor and the needy
seek water, and there is none;
their tongue is parched with thirst.
I the Lord will respond to them.
I, the God of Israel, will not forsake them.Isaiah 41:17

It is so easy to feel abandoned by God when you've prayed and prayed, meditated, recited every positive affirmation you can possibly recite, and STILL don't see much (if any) change in your situation.

You may feel confused, hurt, frustrated, and picked on. Thoughts like these might start to cycle through your being, shaking your faith to the core:

  • What have I done to deserve this?!
  • Why won't He answer me?!
  • Why are there only tiny changes?!
  • Why is He allowing this to happen?!
  • Is evil really going to be allowed to win?!

These aren't just negative thoughts. These are serious spiritual, emotional, and mental blows that hurt in a way no mortal can. This is our Creator we are thinking about. Our Maker. Our Father. And we feel like He is either not caring that we are being hurt or is okay with our destruction!

God has HAS NOT abandoned you.

Fellow believers may say to go to the Word, immerse yourself in praise, and remind us that His ways are not our ways, His thoughts are not our thoughts, His time is not our time. Our lives are like the blink of an eye to Him.

But it's hard to praise when you feel so bad!

It's hard to understand when we feel like we are doing everything we should be doing. Repenting, fasting, praying, praising.

Sometimes the only thing we can do during these seasons is deliberately find things to be grateful for. Every small thing you can find to stand in gratitude over is going to help!

  • The ability to smell and taste the delicious comfort of your morning coffee.
  • The ability to hear the melodic sound of your kids laughing and the chirping birds.
  • The ability to see the gorgeous color of the sunrise or sunset.

Try to find as many little things to be grateful for throughout the day and you will start to feel your happiness, your faith, and your hope coming back. The more intentional you can be about it, the more you deliberately focus your efforts on this exercise, the faster you will start to feel a difference.

It may not make an immediate change in your situation but it will make a big difference in how you experience it.

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and success,
Pearl 'Penny' Lane-Soliz | Penny's Empowerment Club | Empowering The Perfectly Imperfect Proverbs 31 Woman
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Who Art Thy Enemy

"False witnesses did rise up; they laid to my charge things that I knew not."Psalm 35:11 (King James Bible)

It hurts when someone continually casts you as the enemy, the villain in their life story, even though you have done nothing to them. No matter how far out of your way you go to bless them, to be there for them, they are making a repeated choice to believe negative things about you or want to push you out of their life.

You may be left in confusion, wondering - perhaps even flat out asking - why? Why do you treat me this way?

Maybe something about you may be rubbing them the wrong way or it could have nothing to do with you at all. Perhaps your presence requires them to act in a manner far different than they'd prefer. In other words, they were not being honest with you and not being themselves. Now they are trapped in a role they wear like a shrunken pair of wool pants.

We will not always get along with those around us but you may want to pray and seriously reconsider any relationship that refuses to acknowledge and accept the good in you. In the end, it doesn't matter why. What matters is that you are not being (and may not ever be) treated as the blessing you are.

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and success,
Pearl 'Penny' Lane-Soliz | Penny's Empowerment Club | Empowering The Perfectly Imperfect Proverbs 31 Woman
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When Is The Work Day Done For A Stay-At-Home Parent? (media) | Penny's Empowerment Club

When Is The Work Day Done For A Stay-At-Home Parent?

Many relationships run into trouble when they fail to honestly discuss and plan for the needs of a home business.

The partner who works outside the home may come home feeling tired and ready to rest - after all, they did their work for the day - but looks around and sees chaos. Children needing/wanting attention, housework left undone here and there, and their mate chattering about the joys and troubles of the day, seeking affection and assistance with it all.

It gets even worse when you add a home-based business into the mix. You've now added pressure to run a business and consistently create income. Things that normally involve more than one person or department.

  • A/R and Billing
    You won't get very far if you can't manage your accounts receivable and accounts payable. An accountant can help you set your system up but you do need to know how to use it and how to read your reports. After all, overdue accounts won't collect themselves.
  • Content/Product/Service Development
    Without a product or service to sell, you won't make any money.
  • Customer Service
    Happy customers mean repeat business, referrals, and income.
  • Human Resources
    The business may be too small to offer a benefits package but you do need to know when you can take time off and how much you actually get paid. Your accountant can help you determine how much tax and other deductions you should pay but it is up to you to stay on top of that.
  • Marketing and Advertising
    You need to let potential clients know you exist and help craft the impression they have of you and what you do.
  • Technical Support
    Tech helpers can become tech nightmares when gadgets stop working like they should and software starts glitching, losing important data. It needs to be fixed quickly so that you and your clients can get back to work.
  • Web Development
    Your website is a living business card. Until it goes down or gets hacked. All that content you worked so hard to create needs to uploaded and properly formatted. It needs to be updated and kept secure.

Focus Is The Key

"It must be nice to stay home."
The stress and strain builds up every day with both sides may be thinking they are carrying the heavier load and could a better job than the other partner.
A traditionally employed parent's primary focus during work hours is the job they are paid to do. (Except for the times they are on social media like Facebook but that's an entirely different post.)

A stay-at-home parent's primary focus is the well-being of the children and upkeep of the home.

Meanwhile, most work-from-home business models force the work-from-home parent to choose between the kids and the home or the business. Often many times a day!

It can be hard emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Downright frustrating and tear inducing on one day, absolutely a praiseworthy effort on another:

  1. You've struggled with writer's block and are finally on a roll when the baby starts to cry.
  2. You need to record a tutorial or lead a live teleseminar but the older kids are happily running around, chatting and laughing loudly.
  3. You finally put out all those household fires - washed the dishes, got the laundry started, put the baby down for a nap - when the phone rings. It's a potential client but you still need to make sure the older kids eat a healthy lunch.

The bad news is that there isn't an easy, one-family-fits-all answer. It all comes down to what you and your partner have chosen to focus on and what both of you think "the work day is done" means for the work-at-home parent.

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and success,
Pearl 'Penny' Lane-Soliz | Penny's Empowerment Club | Empowering The Perfectly Imperfect Proverbs 31 Woman
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Fate and Destiny Vs. Free Will

Sometimes it sucks to think of how good what could have been looks compared to "what's meant to be". I think somehow it all turns out okay, we move on (what choice do we have?), and we find something else but every now and then ... there's that little twinge.

Why do things happen the way they do? If God gave us all free will, how can there be destiny, a "meant to be"? Why does it work out for someone else? Heavy questions I don't have an answer to and probably never will.

It's easy to talk about fate, destiny, and things being meant to be when we experience a positive, happy, and desirable outcome.

When hurtful things happen though, it can be hard to reconcile how a loving God would allow - even pre-ordain - our hurt. Does He seriously feel that we deserve to have a terrible thing happen to us?

If there is a plan for each of us, I don't think it is written in stone.

God gave us free will, which means we all have the opportunity to change what is/was planned for us. It also means we can directly and indirectly affect what happens to someone else.

It's that latter part that gets us into trouble more often than not because we usually can't see how our choices impact someone else until AFTER we've done or said whatever we did or said.

God does not hurt us on purpose or allow us to be hurt for no reason.

Like a good parent, it must pain Him to see how we behave sometimes but He knows He must let us all grow up, make our mistakes, and harness our free will to become independent individuals.

Sadly, that means that sometimes we will hurt someone or someone will hurt us. It's up to us to seek His comfort when we need it, to try to make amends with those we hurt when we make a mistake, and to strive to keep our hearts from growing hard. Easier said than done, I know.

All I can do - all I can tell you - is to just keep praying and believe that God will make things right somehow. That's what keeps me going when the hurts of my past come sucker punching me out of nowhere.

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and success,
Pearl 'Penny' Lane-Soliz | Penny's Empowerment Club | Empowering The Perfectly Imperfect Proverbs 31 Woman
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Facebook To Reduce Organic Reach (Again)

Facebook page owners will soon be faced with another decrease in organic reach. Currently at around a frustrating 16%, that number is anticipated to drop down to a paltry 1-2%.

Facebook is reportedly slashing organic reach for Pages, a move that could have a sweeping impact on brands that have spent big on the social platform as well as local companies that have worked hard with limited resources to develop often modest fan bases.Facebook Reportedly Slashing Organic Reach for Pages | AdWeek

On the down side, in order for most companies to remain competitive, an increased ad budget will be required.

On the up side (depending on your side of the fence), it will be easier to gain page views by simply paying for them instead of deliberately creating the eye-catching content most of us have come to expect from the posts that we share.

Internet marketers who have relied primarily upon Facebook ads to get noticed will probably not notice much of a difference. Except perhaps as a ping in the pocketbook with increased competition over target audiences.

Facebook is a business and has a bottom line to consider. However, it is also a social media and networking channel with no to low cost competitors like Twitter, YouTube, and LinkedIn.

If you are a Facebook page owner, how will this affect you? Will you be taking your business elsewhere or hanging on for the ride?

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and success,
Pearl 'Penny' Lane-Soliz | Penny's Empowerment Club | Empowering The Perfectly Imperfect Proverbs 31 Woman
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Receiving The Best In Every Situation

Good morning, my fabulous friends! Today is Thursday, March 20, 2014 (18 Adar II, 5774).

{ Today's Psalms }

If you are following along on our Monthly Psalm Rotation Calendar, we'll be reading Chapters 88-89.

{ Our Empowering Thought }

"I trust God/the Universe to deliver my highest good in every situation."

Sometimes things look or feel so bad that we simply cannot imagine anything good coming out of them. Disasters, accidents, painful arguments, illness, aging - the list could go on and on.

Our sadness and depression could go on and on too, if we don't step in and take control of our thoughts and the emotions they inspire inside of us.

When you can't think of anything remotely qualifying as a Silver Lining Moment, practice this Month's Consciousness Exercise and then repeat to yourself that God (or the Universe, if you prefer) will always deliver your highest good in every situation.

Repeat it as many times as you need to. Meditate on it. Absorb it. Then seek out experiences that make you happy. Watch a silly movie, go to the closest comedy club or improv, spend time at the park with your dog.

Whatever it is - no matter how simple it may seem - if it works for you, do it.

{ This Month's Consciousness Exercise }

Close your eyes and imagine you are blowing up a balloon with all the things that are bothering you. The things you worry about. The things that you aren't sure how to deal with. The things that bring you down emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and even physically.

Don't tie a knot on that balloon though. See yourself letting the balloon get almost full and then just letting it go. Imagine laughing at the crazy flight pattern that balloon is taking as it deflates and flies away from you.

Breathe. Feel the lightness. It will all work out. You will be okay. You are strong and have more control than you realize. Reclaim it.

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and success,
Pearl 'Penny' Lane-Soliz | Penny's Empowerment Club | Empowering The Perfectly Imperfect Proverbs 31 Woman
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Choosing Peace and Happiness

Good morning, my fabulous friends! Today is Wednesday, March 19, 2014 (17 Adar II, 5774).

--- { Today's Psalms } ---
If you are following along on our Monthly Psalm Rotation Calendar, we'll be reading Chapters 83-87.

--- { Today's Empowering Thought } ---
"Peace and happiness are a conscious choice."

We can choose to look for the Silver Lining Moment in every seemingly negative situation. We can choose to embrace the little things that make us smile and let go of the things that make us feel bad.

It's okay to honor our emotions by letting ourselves feel the sadness and pain. Just remember to let it go.

--- { This Month's Consciousness Exercise } ---
Close your eyes and imagine you are blowing up a balloon with all the things that are bothering you right now. The things you are worried about. The things that you aren't sure how to deal with. The things that bring you down emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and even physically.

Don't tie a knot on that balloon though. See yourself letting the balloon get almost full and then just letting it go. Imagine laughing at the crazy flight pattern that balloon is taking as it deflates and flies away from you.

Breathe. Feel the lightness. It will all work out. You will be okay. You are strong and have more control than you realize. Reclaim it.

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and success,
Pearl 'Penny' Lane-Soliz | Penny's Empowerment Club | Empowering The Perfectly Imperfect Proverbs 31 Woman
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But, Lord, This Isn’t What I Wanted!

Faith is a tricky thing. It can be extremely frustrating - sometimes maybe downright depressing - to get an answer that is the complete opposite of what you are asking for. How do you reconcile your wants and wishes with the answer you get when that answer is nowhere near what you wanted?

Here you are, praying for deliverance or at least a bit of relief, working so hard to be the best person you can be, maybe even taking extreme efforts to "fix" a situation, but someone else just keeps getting away with being mean, insensitive, or downright hostile.

Why Lord?

 
Why are You keeping me here? Why won't you open another door or window for me? Why are You telling me to not give up but instead to pray for this person?

Does this mean He doesn't want to help or we somehow deserve what is happening? No! God is not mean. He doesn't torture us (even if it does sometimes feel like it!).

But, Lord, This Isn't What I Wanted! | PennysEmpowermentClub.com

Growth is never easy and He will not make our road harder than it has to be BUT we do need to let go of what we think should happen. We need to let go of our expectations and surrender to what is and will be.

We need to live fully in the moment. Deliberately choosing to look for the Silver Lining Moment while letting go and letting God. That is the ultimate sign of our faith and reliance on Him.

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and success,
Pearl 'Penny' Lane-Soliz | Penny's Empowerment Club | Empowering The Perfectly Imperfect Proverbs 31 Woman
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A Woman’s Silent Goodbye

If a woman's feelings are hurt or she feels rejected enough times by her partner, she will begin to hold back parts of herself in an attempt at self-defense.

Among other ways, this can manifest itself as expending less effort on keeping the home tidy, seeming not to care about her appearance, or even not being as engaged with family events.

It's not material gifts that she seeks or an attempt to force her partner to put her first - she's smart enough to know she can't force someone to love her if she wants the relationship to be real and honest.

It's a gradual shutting down, a letting go, that only real interaction can cure. Small things, such as:

  • Taking walks around the neighborhood together.
  • Watching the sun set or looking up at the stars together.
  • Holding hands and hugging for no reason.
  • Sweet kisses as you pass each other in your home.

Actions, not things.

If you are concerned about finances, try a romantic date night in with candlelight, sparkling juice in wine glasses, a home cooked dinner on your best plates, and a slow massage or couple's bubble bath.

Keeping your relationship fresh, exciting, and loving is something that takes effort but will result in a long, mutually satisfying partnership that lasts a lifetime.

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and success,
Pearl 'Penny' Lane-Soliz | Penny's Empowerment Club | Empowering The Perfectly Imperfect Proverbs 31 Woman
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Women In Hot Water

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"A woman is like a tea bag - you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water." ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Ahh, another truth. Although I don't think this applies just to women. Men and relationships can be held to this yardstick as well.

Truly, I didn't know how strong I was until I stopped to breathe and took a look back. Surprised the heck out of myself. I - like many of you - have survived a lot!

The thing that truly got me was realizing that - had I not gone through the things I had - I would never have known how strong I actually am.

Wishing you much peace, happiness, and success,
Pearl 'Penny' Lane-Soliz | Penny's Empowerment Club | Empowering The Perfectly Imperfect Proverbs 31 Woman
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